According to UK statistics 65,714 new cases were brought before the family courts from January to March 2017. (source: www.gov.uk)
That’s 65,714 UK mothers feeling the same overwhelming stress, dread and anxiety. Can you imagine what the number of mothers across the globe might be?
We are not alone!
Though family court can seem lonely, we are not alone. Mothers from across the world are sharing the same experiences and feeling the same feelings. For those mothers I’ve put together some quotes. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter and a few words of encouragement can go a long way…
Quotes for mothers at family court…
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I lived through this horror, I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Fear can make it easy to want to hide from family court. Bury your head and hope that it goes away. Don’t. Ready yourself to be a mother that stands up for what she believes is in the best interests of her child. Prepare to speak up and tell the magistrates your side of the story. Look fear in the face and do what you think you can’t.
Stay strong…
“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.” – Jill Blakeway
There might be a lot of animosity in your case. A lot of negative things might get said about you in and out of court. Don’t rise to the bait. The truth speaks for itself so keep it classy. Rise above the bad thoughts and negative comments. Remember who you are and what you stand for. Illegitimi non carborundum -don’t let the bastards grind you down.
Free yourself…
“People start to heal the moment they feel heard.” – Cheryl Richardson
Telling your side of the story might just be the release you need. Speaking openly and honestly to the court will be a cathartic experience for many mothers. It was for me. Sharing my concerns and my reality to strangers with the power to validate my feelings felt good. Don’t fear your court hearings. Instead, relish the opportunity to get your voice heard.
If it works for her….
“Just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot in front of the other, and God damn it, you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about the business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way.” – Elizabeth Taylor
Through all the stress, the mounting paperwork and looming hearings, you are still a mother. Your children still need you to be their safe place, their shelter from the storm. Despite your darkening mood, you are still the brightness in your children’s lives. Illegitimi non carborundum!
And finally…
“It always seems impossible until it is done.” – Nelson Mandela
Family court is not forever. Your case, like thousands of others, will come to an end. You will not always be living with the stress levels you have now. Representing yourself at family court is hard, but it’s not impossible. Focus on the outcome you want and work towards it. Nothing more, nothing less.
Do you know any quotes to encourage and empower another mother at family court?
For more of the quotes I’ve found, check out 3 Quotes to Inspire the Proper Conduct of Mothers at Family Court
Amazing things happen when women support each other. #mothers4justice2
