I’m a writer, mother and former Litigant in Heels. I study creative writing with Open College of the Arts – http://www.oca.ac.uk – and I have Chron’s disease. My dog is my best friend and when health permits, I love yoga.
Why Litigant in Heels?
In 2011, I represented myself at family court. I had ended my relationship a couple of years earlier because it was abusive. The abuse continued with every contact visit and boundary lines were continually crossed. When I got the letter from my ex’s solicitor notifying me of his intentions, I felt relieved. I was scared too, but I knew that I had a case to be heard. I couldn’t afford a solicitor, so I trawled the internet and visited every advice centre in my area. The bottom line – there was no help for mothers. There are, and were, plenty of sites and organisations offering help for fathers, but none for mums. It got me thinking about all the other mothers, like me, in court without a solicitor.
There need to be more women supporting women. Not just in fashion, in general. -Victoria Beckham
The blog is born…
I didn’t think I would, but I got through my case. It took a lot of tears, a lot of studying, a mountain of paperwork and some really heavy books – but I did it. Now that part of my life is over, and the anger has had time to melt away, I’m writing for mums. This blog is a mix-up of what I’ve learnt, what I’ve read and what I wish someone had told me when I was a Litigant in Heels. This blog is me trying to help another mother in court without a solicitor.
I know that representing yourself in family court is hard, really hard, but I also know that it’s not impossible. Success at family court is not impossible. I don’t have a law degree and I didn’t need one to get through my case.
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Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women, who have her back. – Unknown