Family Court – To attend or not to attend?

 

attend family courtTo attend or not to attend? It’s a question that will cross the mind of every mother facing family court without a solicitor. Unfortunately, the decision is made all the more difficult for victims of domestic violence.

According to research conducted by http://www.womensaid.org.uk and Queen Mary University in London, 24% of victims reported being cross-examined by their abusive ex partner during family court proceedings. [source: womens aid research and publications ]

Representing yourself, as a survivor of domestic abuse, takes mental and emotional strength. Your abusive ex may ask questions to upset and provoke you, but your inner strength can win-out—if you let it!

Pain is temporary.

family court survivorSomeday your pain will become the source of your strength. Face it. Brave it. You will make it. – Dodinsky

Regardless of the reasons behind it, the fact that you are at family court means that you are standing up to your abuser. You are a survivor, not a victim. You can use your pain as strength to fight for what you believe is in the best interests of your child.

Do it!

domestic abuse survivorYou gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do. – Eleanor Roosevelt.

The first thing you might think is, ‘I can’t do it’—but you can! As a mother you are a part of the process and deserve for your voice to be heard. So, hold your head high, look your abuser in the face and speak up. Don’t let decisions get made in your absence.

Be Brave.

domestic abuse survivorCourage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear. – Mark Twain.

Every mother is scared to attend family court, but don’t let fear stop you from speaking and defending your truth. Family court is about what is best for your children. You’ve already shown your strength by ending an abusive relationship. So, don’t let the abuse continue at family court.

Remember…

mother A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crashes down remorselessly all that stands in its path. – Agatha Christie

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Amazing things can happen when women support each other. #mothers4justice2

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