A first impression is often a lasting impression so it’s important to make a good one. I once read a book that likened court hearings to job interviews and I think it’s a fair analogy. We conduct ourselves properly at a job interview because we want the employer to give us the job. We conduct ourselves properly at court because we want the magistrates to believe our side of the story.
Here are three quotes that I’ve found to inspire the proper conduct of any mother representing herself at court:
“Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman” – Coco Chanel (1883-1971)
It’s a fact that looking good makes you feel better about yourself, so dress smart but comfortable. How you present yourself is one of the first things the magistrates will notice before they have the chance to speak to you. Looking nice portrays a subtle confidence that helps you to look more in control than you feel.
“Patience is not about the ability to wait but how you act while you’re waiting” – Joyce Meyer (1943-present)
Courts are busy places and there’s every chance that your hearing will not be on time. Instead of pacing around and worrying about what could happen, be pro-active. Run through what you’re going to say with a fine tooth-comb, making sure that you’ve included everything that you want to bring to the magistrates attention. If you are naturally impatient then ask for a private room or area so that you can practice speaking your points out loud. Run through your ex’s statement to make sure that you are well prepared to counteract any points that you disagree with. The more prepared you are the more confident you will feel.
“Laws control the lesser man, right conduct controls the greater one.” – Mark Twain (1835-1910)
Court is not the place to argue or belittle your ex; and if your case is strong you won’t need to. Present your side of the story in a classy and dignified manner letting the facts speak for themselves. Don’t swear. Don’t interrupt. The magistrates will control the proceedings and give you plenty of time to speak and respond. If there is something that you don’t understand, be polite in asking for clarification. You don’t have to know the law to be successful in court but you do need to know how to behave.
How you present yourself will be the magistrates first impression of you and how you conduct yourself will be their lasting impression. Stay cool, classy, confident and in control.
Do you know any other quotes that could inspire the proper conduct of another mother representing herself at family court? If so, leave it as a comment and show your support.
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